We are not talking about taking on the tour de France in the name of an orgasm! We are talking about your menstrual cycle! Cycle syncing, as you may have heard, is a term that refers to tracking specifically where you are exactly in your monthly(ish) cycle and planning your activities, around it!
Why cycle sync-ing can be a life-changer.
Barely remembering if you turned off your curling iron? Never fear, there are of course apps for cycle syncing. It may sound like common sense: opting for a yin yoga class during your period and then go for a strenuous hike when your energy is back up the following week. However, the way we approach our social and working lives often means we push ourselves in the name of productivity.
You could describe our traditional collective method to work-life as linear, somewhat masculine. Cycle syncing is a much needed reminder that we are all governed by our own inner seasons. This doesn’t mean that we should hibernate half of the month. In fact, it means that during our less energetic phases (around and during menstruation) we are guided inward, towards planning and reflection; breaking up the outward focused goal-chasing we are otherwise encouraged to participate in.
From what to eat to how we should approach conflict and social occasions (all related back to your current flux of hormones or lack thereof), cycle syncing enthusiasts advocate that this is a great way to work in harmony with your body and biohack your cycle to get the most out of your month.
So what does this have to do with sex? Well everything!
Our hormones take us on a journey over the course of our cycle and this affects our desire and our response to sexual stimulation. Below, we have broken down how you are likely to feel during phases in your cycle in regards to sexual activity. So, if you do feel like “going all the way”, there are recommendations for what might be needed during that time to make it the most climatic experience for you.
The phases of your cycle (for sex!)
Note; everyone’s cycle length differs, this is a rough guide for an ideal, however most of us will be perfectly healthy rocking a variation of this.
Menstruation phase summary, days 1 – 5
If you have your period, you are likely to be bleeding for a few days, maybe even a week. The lining of your uterus is shedding. Energy and your hormones are at their lowest. Good time for reviewing, analysing and reflection.
What this means for your sex life – You may choose to honour this time by cocooning at home, journaling, experimenting with erogenous-focused vibrators and generally taking things at a leisurely Goddess pace. If you do feel like having sex, this is a perfect time to experiment with lubricants as we tend to be more dry during this phase. Really do what you are most comfortable with at this stage as your body is likely to be more sensitive to touch. You might also feel more meditative, even spiritual. This is because of the reflective nature of menstruation. This could be a wonderfully powerful time to connect with your body or your partner on a deeper level with tantra practises; bringing all your consciousness to the act, linger your touches, sync your breath and gooey eye gazing.
Pretty intense stuff!
Moody but still in the mood? Over 3,500 women who took HealthLine survey said orgasms relieve their cramps. You can get more advice on sex during your period here.
Follicular phase summary, days 6 – 14
This is like Springtime for the female body. Hormones are starting to increase in concentration. You begin to feel more creative and engaged in new things. The absolute perfect time for setting intentions.
What this means for your sex life – You may be less inclined towards quickie-style sex as, hormonally, this is a great time to try something new and build intimacy with a partner or yourself. This is the time for renewal so if you’re in a funk or need to get something off of your chest, you can communicate now clearly and creatively while being open to experimentation. Massage, lots of foreplay or self-pleasure with erotica. Slow oral sex could also feel right on cue as you might be leaning towards “receiving” more (we know just the product for this.) Your follicular time of the month is all about building; be it communication, sensation and of course arousal.
Ovulatory phase summary, days 15 – 17
Hormones are really surging as the body is in baby-making mode. You might find yourself more chatty and social with general desire for people being at its highest.
What this means for your sex life – Feminine, sociable and impulsive. You’re hormones are peaking and you are likely to be feeling your best right now, it will be showing too. Some women however experience ovulation-pain during this time; if that’s you, remember to listen to your body and go slow with the foreplay while being intimate with a partner, so you can communicate what feels best.
This is the baby-making phase so if that’s on the cards, this is the time to really have fun and get busy! Your desire is likely to be at its highest so you might be feeling particularly spontaneous and risque.
Morning sex anyone?
Just before you ovulate, testosterone surges making us extra frisque while men’s testosterone is highest when they first wake up, so this is a perfect time of the day for sex with your guy.
If you are not planning on a family any time soon, don’t let the risk go too far though! You will need to be particularly careful with contraceptive. Singletons; this is prime dating and group hang time as you’ll be really feeling playful and flirty.
Luteal phase summary, days 18 – 28
Your hormones at their highest before a very quick decline during menstruation. It is normal to feel particularly emotional and irritable around this time especially if you experience symptoms of PMS.
What this means for your sex life – You may still be feeling the hot flush of your inner Summer. However, as it begins to wane, your hormones are about to quickly decline. This could look like you really wanting sex but feeling like “getting there” is taking forever. So, slow down! It’s totally normal at this phase for you to need extra stimulation and lubrication. This is the perfect time to introduce new toys with your partner or experiment with combinations of vibrators when you are solo. Taking a vibrator in your bathtub where you can really relax; focus on sensation rather than the end goal and let what will be, be.
And then back to the menstruation phase (unless you had a lot of fun during ovulation!). When we see our phases mapped out for us like this, the idea of cycle syncing seems a lot less daunting and a great way to honour and enjoy our cycles.
If you want to give cycle syncing a go here our top rated apps;
- Flo Period & Ovulation – great for pre and post pregnancy info.
- MyFlo App – great for syncing with partners, personalised recommendations, recipe suggestions and hormone info.
- Dot – great for period and detailed symptom tracking.
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