Techniques to Use With Your Internal Vibrator

Sex toys for women and people with vulvas are simply tools to unlock the wonders of the female orgasm. But without technique, they remain just that: tools. So here are some anatomy-based and educated internal vibrator techniques fun!

Through a cultural lens we’d be pardoned for assuming that bigger is better. However, when it comes to sex, we know full-well that it’s the motion in the ocean not the size of the boat that counts.

When we had little knowledge on female pleasure or taking our learnings from porn, we’d assume that women orgasm from deep penetrative sex or a lot of direct clitoral stimulation. While most women do need clitoral stimulation, techniques really vary according to the woman.

As for the deep penetration, we know women are capable of orgasming in a rainbow of ways and we don’t have to go too far to discover them. Think about it, if the vagina contained anywhere near the amount of nerve endings higher up, as it does at its entrance, child birth would be impossible!

Let’s talk surprising vagina anatomy facts and mind-blowing vibrator tips that will definitely prove to us that technique, rather than size, matters!

Technique #1: Shallowing

What is it?

This is when you penetrate the vagina very shallowly and opt to use barely-there type thrusts with your vibrator. This can feel like teasing and creates a build-up of tension as you may be tempted to go deeper. You can do this at any point during masturbation with your internal vibrator.

This could also be a great way to awaken your sexual energy by extending the arousal phase prior to penetrative partner sex.

Why does this feel so good?

By stimulating only the entrance of the vagina, you will create even more arousal of the urethral sponge (found between the pubic bone and vaginal wall) and the perineal sponge (found between the vaginal wall and the rectum). Both of these cushion-like tissues are full of nerve endings and erectile tissue.

When they are stimulated, they become swollen with blood compressing the lower part of the vagina, creating a tightening effect.

The activation of these sponges has been equated to a female erection and some sexologists go so as far as advising that this is the true sign that the female body is ready for sex, not lubrication.

There have also been claims that techniques such as Shallowing bring on female ejaculation. This is because the urethral sponge, containing the Skenes Gland, is known to secrete fluid. This is still such a debated topic, but don’t wait on the science to catch up, this is something you can explore for yourself!

Similar to the Hinting technique (where you don’t linger over the vagina or clitoris for too long initially) you are building sensation to eventually lead to a stronger orgasm.

How to try it?

Using your internal vibrator to stimulate the inner labia occasionally circling the entrance of your vagina. Eventually work just the first few inches of the vibrator into the vagina. Use a water-based lubricant on your internal vibrator for more ease. The movements are more like ‘dips’ than in-out thrusts.

Things to note:

Both the urethral and perineal sponges are likely to be connected via nerves to the clitoris. The clitoris is such a powerhouse of pleasure, with a network of over 8000 nerve endings.
To stimulate the urethral sponge more intensely, form the come hither gesture with your fingers. Alternatively, use a vibrator designed for your G-spot.

Technique #2: Staying in

What is it?

Once your body is ready to fully receive penetration, bring some mindfulness into your time with your internal vibrator!

This technique feels a lot more aligned to tantric practices as it requires you to be very present and raises your overall bodily awareness.

Why does it feel good?

According to OMGyes researchers, with this technique the “pleasure is built from the uninterrupted stimulation” when the vibrator “rocks or grinds inside you without ever breaking contact.”

How to try it?

Breath and allow your vagina to greet your vibrator, take your time to insert, with very minimal effort. Notice the sensations in your pelvis when you don’t thrust the vibrator in and out, instead just hold inside. Stay here for a while experimenting with speeds and settings.

Next try squeezing or as it’s known Flexing. Just like practising kegels or holding in a wee, lifting in and up with your pelvic muscles to tighten your vagina around your vibrator.

The idea is to aim for minimal movement externally but to activate inner muscles.

With the vibrator inside of you, squeeze and release a few times. Change the length of time you hold, just don’t hold your breath!

Change position!

If you’re feeling a little more active, there’s no reason not to switch up your sex position with your vibrator. If you like the “doggy” position, it is likely because the angle creates more stimulation for the urethral sponge, mentioned in technique one. In a table-top position try inserting your internal vibrator into your vagina from behind.

The possibilities are really endless. How you orgasm is unique to you and your body, so keep experimenting! Technique is key and don’t let cultural assumptions ruin your exploration.

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References used in this article

https://www.edx.org/course/human-reproduction

http://www.taralmccoy.com/writing/orgasm

The Sex You Want: A Lovers’ Guide to Women’s Sexual Pleasure, Marcia Douglass and Lisa Douglass

https://www.bustle.com/articles/131716-12-techniques-women-use-to-have-an-orgasm-according-to-omgyes

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Perineal_sponge

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Urethral_sponge