It is likely that you have one of three types of reactions to your vulva (the visible part of your reproductive organs below the belt; comprised of your mons, labia, clitoris and vaginal entrance).
These reactions might be plain indifference, awe and curiosity (high fives to you) or disgust *womp womp* … but we get it!
We totally understand that self-love isn’t an overnight process and that feeling great about your body at all times isn’t probable for most of us. Especially when it comes to our genitalia.But we have to resist ignoring or shaming parts of ourselves under the guise that it’s taboo or shameful.
Traditional Western pornography (where most vulva owners would have first seen a vulva up close that wasn’t our own) distorts what genitals look like. Yes, you can photoshop a video!
The truth is vulvas are as vast in appearance as faces. Labia is often asymmetric and vary in length, while some clitoris’ glans are barely visible while for others it will be a lot longer and prominent. There is no “perfect” way that vulvas should look and acknowledging that your vulva is completely unique is a really important thing to understand and keep reminding ourselves.
Lack of quality sex education is just as to blame for vulva-shame as porn’s fetishization of genitals. If we never learn to celebrate and love our bodies and its ability to experience pleasure, of course we will grow uneasy and confused about what things should be like.
Gynaecologists have shared that this vulva shame isn’t just affecting women’s view on their bodies, it can have fatal consequences for their health. As women admit to missing cervical screenings that could help detect early signs of cervical cancer, if they weren’t feeling good about their vulva’s appearance. Ungroomed pubic hair is often cited as a big reason for this!
A nation study of the Prevalence and Characteristics of Vibrator Use by Women in the United States found a significant positive correlation between women who use vibrators and those who have had recent gynaecological examinations. They also found these women more likely to perform self-examinations.
“It may be that women who are comfortable using vibrators are also women who are comfortable looking at or touching their genitals for health reasons, or having their genitals viewed and touched as part of gynaecologic exam.”
In fact “vibrator users were significantly more likely to engage in two specific health-promoting behaviors as compared to nonusers:
(i) having had a gynecologic exam in the previous year; and
(ii) having looked closely at their genitals in the previous month.“
Another theory Is that “it may be that novelty or sexual pleasure motivates women to use a vibrator and that the experience of using a vibrator helps women to feel more comfortable with their genitals and gynaecologic exams.”
If self-pleasure is something you are unsure of or have put off, start by looking and getting to know your vulva for the sake of your health. You will be able to spot if things change and this can equip you better to share vital information with a health professional should you ever need to.
Although once a year is not enough for our liking, May is Masturbation Month so we wanted to share some interesting facts about why masturbation is a healthy, normal and wonderful part of sexuality
Vibrators for women are pointless tools if we don’t know our body. This is why we regularly work with sexologists to bring educated reads on female sexuality. This week, let’s talk women’s sexual anatomy.
According to Natalie Anger’s, “Woman: An Intimate Geography” nearly 30% of women have no clue where their clitoris is located. Even more men couldn’t identify a clitoris if you held it in front of their face. Why is this?