Couples vibrators.

Using a sex toy with a partner helps you learn about each other's bodies and keeps things playful and fun. Before you start, make sure to have an open and honest conversation with your partner about what you both want and what you're comfortable with. Start slow and try different things until you find what feels good for both of you, such as alongside oral sex, penetration, or in new positions. Begin by using the toy on the outside of your partner's body and gradually move closer to the genital area. Pay attention to your partner's reactions, such as body language and verbal cues to gauge their level of comfort and pleasure. Encourage your partner to use the toy on you too, so you can both get playful with giving and receiving pleasure. Remember, the goal is to have fun and enjoy each other's company. Don't be afraid to try new things, but always respect each other's boundaries and listen to each other's feedback.

Our community suggests sharing the vibrator joy (a lot of them use their favorite vibes on their partner) but you can also shop for one together to make it a joint pleasure purchase. There are lots of options to use together, and really any sex toy can be used together if you're creating a shared experience. For some inspiration, why not try a palm-shaped vibrator that fits intuitively in the hand and can be held against any body part? We’re talking cupped against the vulva, pressed on a butt cheek, or used to gently caress the testicles. To accompany penetrative sex, a clitoral vibrator will help many women and people with vulvas reach orgasm. Or, for something extra playful, a tongue vibrator is all about exploring new erogenous zones together.

When using sex toys together, it's all about playing around to see what works. This might also require switching up positions, though you might be surprised at how easily a couple's vibrator fits into some of your favorite positions already. For a little inspiration, and to start things slow, try vibe humping. Like dry humping, but with a vibrator between you both. Or, try using a vibrator during oral sex to add penetration to the licking sensations, or add testicle vibrations to sucking. Doggy-style allows you or your partner to hold the vibe against your clitoris, and a small clit vibrator can be slipped between your bodies in a classic missionary position. For more inspo, read our guide to using vibrators with partners.

Yes! Just like having sex, using a vibrator during pregnancy is completely safe and isn't harmful to the baby. Changes in hormones mean you can also see changes in lubrication, so extra lube for enhanced sensation is a great shout. Internal vibrators are safe (nothing can penetrate beyond your vagina), but if you feel uncomfortable or just really not feeling penetration, clitoral stimulation can feel really good – especially as there is usually an increased blood flow to the vulva for more pleasure sensations.