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02 Dec 2020 (Last updated 29 Jan 2024)

A guide to being sex positive

Sexual Journey 6 min read
A guide to being sex positive

A Year of Sex Positivity with Pink Bits!

This year, we collaborated with Instagram illustrator Pink Bits to bring monthly doses of sex positive art to our feed. From fantasies to periods, anal and equality; we covered a lot in 12 months. However, before we take a look back...

What Does Sex Positivity Mean?

When it comes to a sex-positive approach, many terms come to mind;

  • Pleasurable and consensual
  • Part of our health and wellbeing
  • Shame free
  • Open conversations

Recognizing sexuality in ourselves and in others; owning it and being non-prejudiced of others; seeing the pleasure potential and understanding its contribution to wellness; this is sex positivity. An attitude that encourages warm invitations for people to discuss sex out in the open and see the sex lexicon from a different perspective.

Sexuality has long been stigmatized, with lots of miseducation and negativity. BUT this mindful approach breaks down what is societally expected and creates a new norm, one that is optimistic and progressive, inclusive and esteemed.

Why Be More Sex Positive?

Developing this new behaviour and way of thinking not only allows us to see the world through a sexually constructive lens, but also ourselves! It can benefit us as individuals by expanding our curiosity of our own sexuality; encouraging exploration of our own bodies; validating our own desires and needs; and, opening up to new (consensual) experiences. This dynamic relationship between ‘me, myself and I’ doesn’t relate to our level of sex drive, but simply nurtures our experience of sex – solo or partnered. As we all know, working on our inner selves is where most progress starts, and when we do so, what we project into the world also changes. Whether it’s acknowledging other people’s sexuality and desires, or respecting others’ needs and pleasure.

Inspiration On How To Be More Sex Positive

  • Following accounts and joining Instagram communities that champion our bodies, sexuality and pleasure are a super way to introduce sprinkles of sex positive perspectives into your everyday whilst diversifying your feed. Plus, it can make it easier for you to open up the conversation through sharing and posting what you love!
  • Brushing up on your sex education has never been easier. Learning resources in 2020 are much more fun and adaptable to our lives and habits; you can learn on your run or squeeze lessons into break time with empowering podcasts, or take a free online teachable course to upskill. And no, these sex ed classes are not like the ones you had at school!
  • Reflecting on our feelings and putting them down on paper is a timeless recommendation to gain perspective. Through journaling, we dedicate time for self-compassion and focus on ourselves; we create a physical and mental space to affirm our own sexuality!

Pink Bits x Smile Makers Vulva Journal

The Vulva Journal combines artistic expression and journaling, so you can have lots of sex positivity in one place. Follow prompts and activities throughout the year to learn more about your sexuality, and without noticing, you’ll have crafted your very own self-love story. Exclusively available this December!

Here’s what our sex positive art could inspire in you...

January: Vulva Pride

Pink illustration of a person looking at their vulva in a handheld mirror by Pink Bits

A reminder for us to get to know our vulvas. The more we know about something, the more confident we can be; and that goes for our own bodies too. Understanding the difference between our vulva and vagina, the parts of the vulva and what our own looks like (FYI they are all unique) helps build pride as opposed to shame.

February: Acts of Self‑Love

Pink illustration of a person riding a red vibrator by pink bits

A note that Valentine’s Day should be all about you.

March: International Women’s Day

feminism illustration by pink bits

A celebration of making the world a more equal place, one orgasm at a time.

April: Cliteracy Lessons

illustration of a person hugging the clitoris by pink bits

A call to learn more about your pleasure potential through positive sex education! The clitoris is the only organ in the human body that exists for pure pleasure; just one of many sex-positive fun facts!

May: Masturbation Month

purple illustration of a person using a vibrator by pink bits

A focus on self-pleasure and what makes you feel good! Did you know that May-sturbation was a thing? A whole month dedicated to masturbation and why it’s such a beneficial practice.

June: Pride Month

illustration of a person celebrating pride on a sofa with words 'proud to be me' on a banner

A look at equipping ourselves with the right words for an inclusive, sex‑positive society and celebrating the LGBTQI+ community!

July: Erogenous Feelings

pink illustration of the cortical homunculus by pink bits

A reimagination of the Cortical Homunculus, the representation of body parts based on how the brain processes sensory information from them. It’s usually based on bodies with penises SO we took the vulva perspective!

August: Period Positivity

illustration of period leak underwear with phases of menstrual cycle by pink bits

A point on embracing menstrual cycles and making sure we don’t shy away from sexual pleasure when we’re on.

September: Sexual Health Month

blue illustration by pink bits of person amidst sexual wellness products

A PSA that sexual health is more than STIs and contraception, highlighting the importance of sexual pleasure to our overall well‑being, and a little something called the pleasure gap…

October: Magic Fantasies

purple illustration depicting erotic imagination and fantasies by pink bits

A cue to spark your sensual imagination with sexy short stories and audio erotica, your fantasies are validated!

November: Pain During Sex

illustration of what endometriosis feels like by pink bits

A thought on addressing the fact that studies show vulva owners often define good sex as no pain!

December: Anal Sex

yellow illustration representing anal sex with person sat on a peach by pink bits

A bootiful sense of pleasure. The anus and perianal region contain a lot of nerve endings, which can make stimulation around the butt very pleasurable. For anal sex, make sure your relaxed, lubricated and prepared to communicate with your partner!

"By creating art through Pink Bits, I’ve learned that bodies are our vessels and to approach them with kindness" (Yahya, 2022).


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