This month’s masturbation diary is by Lady K, a single mom who mixes up her playtime in a variety of ways. Taking regular me-time can help us explore our mind and body more deeply, rather than just squeezing it in when we can. Switching up our masturbation routine can also invite sexual reflection and strengthen our sexual awareness. From a rabbit vibrator to sexting, Lady K makes time to prioritize pleasure and reminds us that there is no pressure to reach orgasm when exploring.
Living situation: England! Single mama living with a toddler.
Relationship status: Single.
Pronouns: She/her.
What sexual orientation best fits you right now? Heterosexual.
How many sex toys do you own? Six.
Do you ever use lube during masturbation? Never.
What do you call masturbation? Playtime.
How would you describe your libido at the moment? Medium/high.
Growing up, what kind of convos did you have about sex? My family has always been pretty open but never really about sex. Sex chat was always between friends usually based on what we’d seen on tele or from our own experiences. Female masturbation was a funny one, no one ever seemed to admit they did it but tell a boy and they were fascinated.
At what age do you first remember masturbating? 16
Lady's masturbation diary.
Week one.
It’s that time of the month and whilst playtime can be more pleasurable, I cannot be bothered with the additional mess it creates. Despite a higher libido it was a week of no touching‚ aside from the occasional nipple play whilst sending filthy messages to a lad I’ve spent time with lately. To be honest that is just as fun sometimes.
Week two.
Period freedom has arrived and thank goodness for that. I find my stress levels peaking at work and at home and honestly, so flipping horny. I had a fortunately placed day off this week so thought I’d indulge myself with a morning in bed with my trusty rabbit. Now I’m a girl that loves to edge, really take my time and enjoy the experience where I can. It’s not often I have the chance or the time alone to really live in that zone for a while. My body however had other plans and within about 90 seconds edging gave way to one of the strongest orgasms I’ve ever had. Unfortunately for me, that meant some unforeseen laundry!
Week three.
The one plus side of solo parenting is that occasionally you have a full weekend to yourself. After the not so much edging disaster of the previous week I decided to spend an entire Saturday pretty much playing with myself off and on. For the first time in a long time I decided to add a little butt plug to the party and my god I’d forgotten how good that additional sense of fullness makes playtime feel. Mid cycle is usually when my libido hits full peak so it was a day of porn, play and plugs and oh so much bliss.
Week four.
This week was not quite as fun as those before. A lot of work and home stress coupled with a toddler in sleep regression meant moments of self love were sadly few and far between. I did manage to fit in a very quick and quiet solo finger session in in the bath though. I’ll admit it wasn’t great but it was enough to tip me into Otown and sometimes that’s all you need to reset the brain and get a good nights sleep.
So, what is edging? This masturbation technique involves getting ever so close to orgasm, to the edge of the pleasure peak, but not going over it. Stopping stimulation just before climax, over and over again, can make it more intense when finally choosing to let go. Our limited edition Vibes of the Week box matches seven vibrators to seven techniques to try on different days.
Masturbation diaries by the Smile Makers' community are here to discuss what we rarely discuss... how we masturbate! We hope to inspire and prove that every one of us is writing our very own sexual story. We also adore that it's a great time to reflect on our monthly pleasure and note how it impacts our wellness!
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