This month’s masturbation diary is by Lottie, an Australian woman who grew up in a very religious household. Like many women and people with vulvas around the world, a lack of pleasure-positive sex education meant masturbation was never acknowledged as something we could experience, and now Lottie is making up for lost time.
Living situation: Parents and puppies.
Relationship status: Single.
Pronouns: She/her.
What sexual orientation best fits you right now? Lesbian.
How many sex toys do you own? Four! Including The Firefighter and The Romantic from Smile Makers.
Do you ever use lube during masturbation? Always.
What do you call masturbation? Masturbating.
How would you describe your libido at the moment? Strong.
Growing up, what kind of convos did you have about sex? I grew up in a very religious household we never talked about sex or sexual pleasure. I also attended a Christian school where the sexual education was absolutely dismal, with no talk about the pleasurable side of sex, both with your partner and solo pleasure. I was never taught growing up about how pleasurable, incredible, and liberating masturbating can be. I’m making up for lost time ;)
At what age do you first remember masturbating? I was about 18 I’d never even known that that was something a woman could do up until that point.
Lottie's masturbation diary.
Week one.
I have ‘alone time’ 1-2 times a week. I always use an internal and external vibrator when masturbating. I always use lube when using a clitoral vibrator. I find porn really intense to watch and as a gay woman, I find it hard to find things targeted to me. So I always use written fictional erotica to get me ‘in the mood’. When using my vibrator especially ‘The Romantic’ I find I ALWAYS climax (more than once ;)
Week two.
I manage to get time to myself more often when my family is away. Probably 3 times a week. They’re super busy, and I use the time to my advantage. I always listen to my ‘getting- in-the-mood’ playlist, and it helps me feel sexy and free. I find that when I masturbate more often my skin’s clearer, I feel better in myself. I feel better in my body and my mind, too. I love the serotonin boost it gives me. I find getting everything shaved, putting on a nice moisturizer, and having a pamper night before masturbating help me get in the mood even more and makes the experience even better!
Week three.
I had a bit of a dip in my sex drive this week. It just happens sometimes, which is completely normal. I probably did it once this week which was still very nice and pleasurable. I was still able to climax more than once, and I found that a lot of the time, it really positively impacted my sleep and helped me relax and destress. I still used my pleasure aids like lube, external and internal vibrators and erotic fiction. I definitely had fun ;)
Week four.
I had a bit of a peak in my sex drive. I was reading a lot of erotic materials, and it was definitely getting me in the mood. I was feeling really good in my body this week, and it made masturbating an even more pleasurable experience; it was super liberating and made me feel really connected to my body. I use my vibrators religiously and never really use just my hands for stimulation, I find it easier to climax with the vibrations and love using the stimulation on other intimate areas like the breasts and stomach and around my hips. It was a great week ;)
Getting. In. The. Mood! Stimulating our brains and getting our erotic juices flowing (literally and metaphorically) is just as much part of masturbation as physical stimulation is. Self-pleasure is waaaay more than just genital stimulation, and whether that is putting your favorite soundtrack on, lighting a candle, or massaging oil into your body - don't underestimate the power of setting the mood.
Masturbation diaries by the Smile Makers' community are here to discuss what we rarely discuss... how we masturbate! We hope to inspire and prove that every one of us is writing our very own sexual story. We also adore that it's a great time to reflect on our monthly pleasure and note how it impacts our wellness!
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