The more a woman knows her body, the easier it will be for her to reach climax. What seems like a mundane act so common in movies is actually not so easily attainable for every woman in reality. Many women are not even aware of what they like or don’t like in the bedroom! Sexual pleasure for women actually requires some exploration, and it’s an exciting journey to take.
What makes a woman orgasm is, indeed, a tough question: it depends on so many factors that the answer varies from woman to woman, and can be different for every woman. It also varies according to the day and the hour! Taking regularly the time to touch oneself and to explore one’s body is important for every woman to stay connected with her preferred sensations.
Using a sex toy can be a really good way to discover one’s preferences. But before using one, there are some steps which can be helpful for women less comfortable with masturbation and even for those comfortable, too: updating the self-discovery process is the best way to stay in touch with one’s preferred sensations and feelings.
Thus, whether you are an expert or a beginner at the art of touching yourself, here are some tips than can help you to discover your body and use vibrators along the way.
Look At Your Body
An exercise sexologists often like to suggest to women is to draw their vagina. The result shows that too many women do not know what their bodies and intimate regions look like. Yet, that is one of the key ways to familiarize themselves with their personal “user guide” and intimate map. Take the time to look at your vulva in a mirror, changing positions if needed, just to discover – or re-discover – how beautiful it is.
Touch It With Your Fingers… And Your Hands
Using your fingers is a good way to start your exploration. The skin to skin contact will help you understand how your body is made, and how it reacts to different movements. Use your fingers one by one, and even apply your whole hand occasionally. Do not focus only on your vagina and clitoris: touch your whole body. The only risk that you are taking is to discover erogenous zones where you didn’t expect you had, and that’s a risk worth taking!
Use An External Vibrator To Explore Your Body
Using a vibrator to discover your body is an experience that can make you find other types of caresses that fingers alone cannot provide. It opens the door to a new range of sensations, not only in the genital area: once again, play with your toy all over your body. Applying the vibrator on all erogenous zones will open new possibilities. Many vibrators offer several speeds of vibration: try them to define what rhythm you like on which part of your body.
Use An Internal Vibrator
When it comes to penetration, using a vibrator – which doesn’t necessarily have to vibrate – can really be a great way to discover vaginal pleasure. Make sure to use some lubricant and start softly by playing around your vagina. Try several kinds of caresses: soft, firm, slow, quick, massaging, patting… Only when you start feeling excited should you start inserting the toy into your vagina. First go slow, and then… the rest is up to you!
Finally, do not forget that you and your body is evolving: renew the exploration as often as possible to stay connected with your preferred sensations. This is the best way to maintain your orgasmic potential using vibrators and your hands!
Written by Charlotte Creplet, sex therapist at Sexocorner